I’ve been in a weird spot lately.
(Not physically as if I am stuck in between my futon and my arm chair). Apathetic, no, worried, no, humble, no (we all no that’s not it). I have no words for it. I’ve just been. No big mountaintop moments. No big revelation, and no big new adventure. I tell people I am busy, but everyone is busy. I tell people I am doing “good”, but we are all “good”. It is strange. I can’t put my finger on it. Things are not bad, things are not good, things just are.
Last night I was at a high school basket ball game. It was a normal girls basketball game. Normal means they jump during their free throws, and can’t dunk. Neither can I. But I got asked if my daughter was playing in the game??? I don’t have a daughter but, in a strange way the answer is yes. She stands five foot and a half, and is extremely witty. I am not her father, in the star wars sense, but every shot, every pass, every great moment, every stolen pass, I was on the edge of my seat.
I was in my office thinking about what it means to be a leader. I was dreaming about all the people who should be leaders, but can’t. I tend to dream about people’s potential. It is a curse, but a good curse.
Growing up my Dad would tell me how the word “can’t” was not a word. Every time I said, “I can’t”, he would say, “can’t is not a word”. I would yell back, “I can not”! Logically, I really could take my a$$ off the couch, walk over to the trash, pick it up, tie it, and walk it out to the trashcan. But saying I can’t made me seem busy. Can’t, made my Dad realize I was doing something far more important. I was in charge when I couldn’t do something. I think my Dad was on to something.
I am certain about this next sentence. A leader is someone who DOES SOMETHING. Simple. Fun. Adventurous, and full. I do not think I am a great leader, or even a good leader, but I DO SOMETHING. I could have made a bunch of can’t statements last night, but I quit. I went to the basketball game. It may mean nothing, but it also may mean everything.
Jesus talks about DOING SOMETHING. Jesus tells us how to be a leader with a story about a man in a ditch. This man has been beaten, badly, and this man needs someone to DO SOMETHING. Jesus doesn’t say this man needs prayer. Jesus doesn’t say this man needs us to go into a room, sit around in a circle, dream about how we can help, and then mobilize other people to do the work for us. Jesus says, GO DO SOMETHING. Stop making excuses about being tired, overworked, under appreciated, too Christian to hang out with sinners. Jesus doesn’t want us to post on Facebook about how great our christian club was. No one is going to care about a really cool hashtag. (My hashtags are pretty great though.) I miss this mark more than most. If I can’t (there’s that word again) write a really compelling blog or newsletter, I don’t really want to be a part of it. We don’t find out the good Samaritans name. We are not told anything other than how someone outside the faith helped a man in need, and God was pleased. Can I be more like this? Can I be willing to help? Can I go DO SOMETHING? Even if it means the dishes in my sink?
I am going to quit using certain words. I am going to purge my thoughts of these words. Words trip us up, snare us, and trap us into believing things that are untrue. Here are some words I am going to quit.
There is a whole other list for “christian” words, but that is a whole different story.
I could make this list grow but I would run out of english words. We all have excuses for why it is we can’t do something.
But in reality.